Can we really forgive and forget? Well the oxford dictionary defines forgiving as an act of ceasing any angry or resentful feelings toward a person. The meaning for forgetting is cease to think off.
For me when I forgive a person I usually don’t forget I don’t know if it’s the same for anyone else but for me the forgiving part is always the easiest. Does this mean if I don’t forget then I don’t forgive?
My mum has told me before “I will forgive you but I am never going to forget…”
Which makes more sense to me then anything.
She has also said “I broughta u ina this world illa take you out!” which also makes a lot of sense to me… though she says it in a aussie way…. and yet for some reason it still sends shivers up my spine because when she says it all I can see is the soprano’s or something like that… I’m actually scared if I wake up there is going to be a horses head next to me….. anyways that’s of topic.. now I have never heard ill forget but I wont forgive…so is the term “forgive and forget” over used
Me personally yes I do think that term is over used it means nothing…if something has majorly happened to you then you will never forget unless u take some drugs or you got long term and short term memory loss or the person hits u over the head and u get memory loss in which case then that term could be used. But in natural fact u will never forget and revisiting those memories can really hurt.
I am not arguing the fact that you can not forgive a person but can u really forget about it. Like maybe in situation like when u were younger.. when your older bro steals a porno and says to you I wont tell mum about this ill just throw it out for you, your thinking wow what a great brother THEN untill u find it under his bed years later… those sought of scenarios yes could actually forget about it because it is not major…
The thing is….people should always forgive someone…..It may take time but people do things that sometime you may not understand…and sometime people do things that they know full well what there doing and yes it could be unforgivable….but as humans we are not perfect….
I am sure if someone has sincerely apologized for something then they have made the first step to emending what they have done wrong then your next step is to forgive that person it may take time …. Yes but it’s a way of healing yourself because you have accepted what that person did they have apologized the next step for you to feel better is to forgive them….even though sometimes you may not want to forgive that person because your looking to blame someone but I am sure if the roles were reversed you would want that person to accept your apology..
If you have any thoughts on this matter, then leave a comment and if it has actually helped someone then no worries
Peace
For me when I forgive a person I usually don’t forget I don’t know if it’s the same for anyone else but for me the forgiving part is always the easiest. Does this mean if I don’t forget then I don’t forgive?
My mum has told me before “I will forgive you but I am never going to forget…”
Which makes more sense to me then anything.
She has also said “I broughta u ina this world illa take you out!” which also makes a lot of sense to me… though she says it in a aussie way…. and yet for some reason it still sends shivers up my spine because when she says it all I can see is the soprano’s or something like that… I’m actually scared if I wake up there is going to be a horses head next to me….. anyways that’s of topic.. now I have never heard ill forget but I wont forgive…so is the term “forgive and forget” over used
Me personally yes I do think that term is over used it means nothing…if something has majorly happened to you then you will never forget unless u take some drugs or you got long term and short term memory loss or the person hits u over the head and u get memory loss in which case then that term could be used. But in natural fact u will never forget and revisiting those memories can really hurt.
I am not arguing the fact that you can not forgive a person but can u really forget about it. Like maybe in situation like when u were younger.. when your older bro steals a porno and says to you I wont tell mum about this ill just throw it out for you, your thinking wow what a great brother THEN untill u find it under his bed years later… those sought of scenarios yes could actually forget about it because it is not major…
The thing is….people should always forgive someone…..It may take time but people do things that sometime you may not understand…and sometime people do things that they know full well what there doing and yes it could be unforgivable….but as humans we are not perfect….
I am sure if someone has sincerely apologized for something then they have made the first step to emending what they have done wrong then your next step is to forgive that person it may take time …. Yes but it’s a way of healing yourself because you have accepted what that person did they have apologized the next step for you to feel better is to forgive them….even though sometimes you may not want to forgive that person because your looking to blame someone but I am sure if the roles were reversed you would want that person to accept your apology..
If you have any thoughts on this matter, then leave a comment and if it has actually helped someone then no worries
Peace
Haydos
P.S remember when you are ready to forgive someone ... that's when you are ready to move on.
