I felt like actually showing you something that I did (thanks google for pictures) in like 2hrs at 1:35pm lol… and I was just about to go to sleep and wandered if I was going to wake up…..what would I miss? who would I miss> will I ever see that again? and it got me thinking what happens if I die tomorrow?
SO instead of writing about it….its basically about life and what it is in it … the constant question of “The Meaning Of Life” my interpreted meaning of it … its simple the meaning of life is basically to LIVE IT …. Life is all around you don’t waste it trying to search the meaning of life. LIFE is in your hands.. you choose what to do with it and remember….you have only got one of them so live it…don’t let fear control something that is going to go so quick for you….You do not know what is going to happen tomorrow no one does so go and have fun and live and appreciate every single day of your life because for some its cut very very short just remember that….
This Video just covers some events in life if i were to put every single event in then i would be here for days....hope you enjoy it
Peace
Haydos
Wednesday, January 14, 2009
Friday, January 9, 2009
Is Blood Really Thicker Then Water?
Is Blood Really Thicker Then Water?
for me and alot of people this saying is true but all the way threw my life a lot of people say “blood is thicker then water” as in referring to families are going to be closer to then your friends.
In a lot of situations this is can true but also in a lot of situations this is false….for example a child could go threw there life getting abused by her father….now there blood are they not? I have to say with out my “water” (friends) I don’t think I would be the person I am today….yes my (blood) family such as my mum and dad and my bro have had a lot of influence defining me as a person but my environment and my friends shaped me…I rely heavily on my family I care about every single one of them and I am very grateful I have them in my life…
Let me ask you this question…..
Who do you go to when u have a fight with a family member?
Your closest mates rite?
Who do you turn to when u are also having a fight with a friend?
Another friend yes?
The funny thing is most of my mates I already count as family especially close mates of mine. Like there my brothers from anuva muva… lol…
The definition to family is: set of relations
The definition to friends are: person someone likes and chooses to spend time with
Family gets u out of trouble, family is someone who takes u in when your having a bad time for free, family gives you spare money to make sure you get home, family is someone worth standing up for and backing up, family is someone you care about and they care for you.
I don’t care if there was 5 of my family members and 20 guys and we were arguing I will still stand with them side by side any day…and probably get my head kicked in but at least I know I would be getting my head kicked in next to them and not being a coward and running away, I mean if they decided to leg it then yeh lol ill be running as quick as I could too but if they all decided to stay then so would i…..that is what family does for one another but say if there was blood relations who are in need of help or something but has abused you or done nothing for you you have to ask the question would they stand next to you or do you think they deserve your help, Family stand next to each other…they protect on another….just think back to WW2 most of there family was back home…but I bet u they developed there own family looked out for one another cried when one died….
For me the saying "blood is thick then water" meaning blood relations are more importent then outsiders...that means shit to me…blood has nothing to do with it…family is all about looking out and spending time with one another…. I could be blood related to an abusive father does not mean his my family…which also reminds of another stupid saying “you can choose your friends but not your family”
That is also a load of crap of course you can decide to have “set of relations” child services CHOOSE families for kids all the time, for me family is some one “you choose to have and like to spend time with to have set relations with.
for me and alot of people this saying is true but all the way threw my life a lot of people say “blood is thicker then water” as in referring to families are going to be closer to then your friends.
In a lot of situations this is can true but also in a lot of situations this is false….for example a child could go threw there life getting abused by her father….now there blood are they not? I have to say with out my “water” (friends) I don’t think I would be the person I am today….yes my (blood) family such as my mum and dad and my bro have had a lot of influence defining me as a person but my environment and my friends shaped me…I rely heavily on my family I care about every single one of them and I am very grateful I have them in my life…
Let me ask you this question…..
Who do you go to when u have a fight with a family member?
Your closest mates rite?
Who do you turn to when u are also having a fight with a friend?
Another friend yes?
The funny thing is most of my mates I already count as family especially close mates of mine. Like there my brothers from anuva muva… lol…
The definition to family is: set of relations
The definition to friends are: person someone likes and chooses to spend time with
Family gets u out of trouble, family is someone who takes u in when your having a bad time for free, family gives you spare money to make sure you get home, family is someone worth standing up for and backing up, family is someone you care about and they care for you.
I don’t care if there was 5 of my family members and 20 guys and we were arguing I will still stand with them side by side any day…and probably get my head kicked in but at least I know I would be getting my head kicked in next to them and not being a coward and running away, I mean if they decided to leg it then yeh lol ill be running as quick as I could too but if they all decided to stay then so would i…..that is what family does for one another but say if there was blood relations who are in need of help or something but has abused you or done nothing for you you have to ask the question would they stand next to you or do you think they deserve your help, Family stand next to each other…they protect on another….just think back to WW2 most of there family was back home…but I bet u they developed there own family looked out for one another cried when one died….
For me the saying "blood is thick then water" meaning blood relations are more importent then outsiders...that means shit to me…blood has nothing to do with it…family is all about looking out and spending time with one another…. I could be blood related to an abusive father does not mean his my family…which also reminds of another stupid saying “you can choose your friends but not your family”
That is also a load of crap of course you can decide to have “set of relations” child services CHOOSE families for kids all the time, for me family is some one “you choose to have and like to spend time with to have set relations with.
(It states: "Blood is thicker than water." This phrase has completely lost its original, covenant-related, meaning. Today, it is interpreted as meaning that blood-related family members are to be considered as more important than anyone else. However, the original meaning is, "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb," or, "My relationship with those to whom I am joined in covenant is to be considered of more value than the relationship with a brother with whom I may have shared the womb.") (http://www.phrases.org.uk/bulletin_board/19/messages/141.html)
Peace
Haydos
Saturday, January 3, 2009
Making mistakes
Everyone makes mistakes it is apart of being human….but it’s what we do with that mistake that defines us as a person…what I mean is…. Its ok to make a mistake IF and this is a big IF you learn from that mistake…all the way threw my life I have made critical mistakes for example when I was in like I think grade 12 I took my high school crush out to the movies and my mistake was and I guess this came down to IMMATURITY… is double dating with my dad and his girl friend *bends head in shame* ..... now I liked this girl since frigan year 8 to the start of year 12 and when I thought I had my opportunity I blew it I didn’t make a move or anything ….. BUT life dealt me other cards soooo I consider it a path I never ventured down and I m cool wit that that’s fine …. Thing is I have learnt from that….its amazing what being out of high school for a few years do to you…..I look back on my high school year and think what a complete tosser I was In some of things I did….but I hold no regrets because all those choices I made…made me the person I am today and I am completely happy with that….I mean yes I was very much in my shell to what I am today I was innocent I was naive young dumb and immature but I am fine with that….because I am not that today because of life experience and mistakes I have made….
I remember buying my first 25 bag of weed (all my friends and family no of this so I have nothing to hide) when I was umm 19 I think we were in the city at a local bar(and my mates i
f you reading will remember) and I bought it and the mistake I was going to make was to ask for my money back and give him back what I had just purchased….now luckily a few good mates stepped in and stopped me from making that stupid mistake or I would of ended with my head stomped in…. so I am very great full for my mates…. also taking weed was another mistake and luckily I don’t do it because I noticed it messed with my head and made me more aggressive …..Allot …. If I didn’t learn by my mistakes then I don’t know where I would end up in this world…
Learning by your mistakes took me about hmmm 14 years to learn….learning not to regret the things I did also took me 14 years…. And I am glad I learned to learn by my mistakes later then never…making mistakes and having regrets are all part of life…it defines you as a person and makes you learn…..humans are constantly learning and making mistakes because we are all far from perfect…. So don’t be afraid to make mistakes be afraid not to learn by them that’s the worse part….
For example we have jenny here been with her boy friend jack for the past 2 years…in those 2 years she has been abused physically now she stays with him because he says he is going to change and he is sorry but continues to abuse jenny…..now what would be the stupid thing here? making the mistake to be with jack in the first place and living the your whole life regretting it? or learning by your mistake and doing something about it?…think about it
Another example and I am going to use my self again….. (because I have made allot of mistakes) I was about hmmmm I think 8 and I was fishing with my dad but it was really really hot and we were down at Jacobs welb fishing I said I want to go for a swim and dad said no because there are a lot of rocks with oysters and you will cut yourself…now me being me the arrogant little bastard I was disobeyed my father and ended up with a oyster half way in my leg….mistake lol learnt by it yes….. I have learned about life the hard way and I probably will in the future that me that’s how I learn….and that’s how I am… Sometime it works out for me most of the times it doesn’t
Another incident is where I was fishing with mum and I was getting really close to the jetty edge and she told me to stay back and not get to close or I will fall in….now after of many hours of mum telling me this guess what happens I fall in! keep in mind that I was about 8 again and I just finished watching jaws 1 and 2 the previous night…..all that was running threw my head at that time was the dadum dadum…. soooo I decided not to do the smart thing and swim around but instead climb the oyster infested jetty pole cutting my legs and getting strangers to pull me up…mum said the look was priceless on my face I think it went along the lines of “cliff hanger” she said when the women is holding onto the dude and she has the horror look in her face.
I have made a lot of mistakes I have made more then others and I am still making mistakes and I will but at least I’m learning from them and not repeating them….my advise is pay more attention and go hmmm have I put my self in this situation before If I HAVE what was the end result if bad then don’t get your self into that situation again….. easy!
Peace
Haydos
I remember buying my first 25 bag of weed (all my friends and family no of this so I have nothing to hide) when I was umm 19 I think we were in the city at a local bar(and my mates i
f you reading will remember) and I bought it and the mistake I was going to make was to ask for my money back and give him back what I had just purchased….now luckily a few good mates stepped in and stopped me from making that stupid mistake or I would of ended with my head stomped in…. so I am very great full for my mates…. also taking weed was another mistake and luckily I don’t do it because I noticed it messed with my head and made me more aggressive …..Allot …. If I didn’t learn by my mistakes then I don’t know where I would end up in this world…Learning by your mistakes took me about hmmm 14 years to learn….learning not to regret the things I did also took me 14 years…. And I am glad I learned to learn by my mistakes later then never…making mistakes and having regrets are all part of life…it defines you as a person and makes you learn…..humans are constantly learning and making mistakes because we are all far from perfect…. So don’t be afraid to make mistakes be afraid not to learn by them that’s the worse part….
For example we have jenny here been with her boy friend jack for the past 2 years…in those 2 years she has been abused physically now she stays with him because he says he is going to change and he is sorry but continues to abuse jenny…..now what would be the stupid thing here? making the mistake to be with jack in the first place and living the your whole life regretting it? or learning by your mistake and doing something about it?…think about it
Another example and I am going to use my self again….. (because I have made allot of mistakes) I was about hmmmm I think 8 and I was fishing with my dad but it was really really hot and we were down at Jacobs welb fishing I said I want to go for a swim and dad said no because there are a lot of rocks with oysters and you will cut yourself…now me being me the arrogant little bastard I was disobeyed my father and ended up with a oyster half way in my leg….mistake lol learnt by it yes….. I have learned about life the hard way and I probably will in the future that me that’s how I learn….and that’s how I am… Sometime it works out for me most of the times it doesn’t
Another incident is where I was fishing with mum and I was getting really close to the jetty edge and she told me to stay back and not get to close or I will fall in….now after of many hours of mum telling me this guess what happens I fall in! keep in mind that I was about 8 again and I just finished watching jaws 1 and 2 the previous night…..all that was running threw my head at that time was the dadum dadum…. soooo I decided not to do the smart thing and swim around but instead climb the oyster infested jetty pole cutting my legs and getting strangers to pull me up…mum said the look was priceless on my face I think it went along the lines of “cliff hanger” she said when the women is holding onto the dude and she has the horror look in her face.
I have made a lot of mistakes I have made more then others and I am still making mistakes and I will but at least I’m learning from them and not repeating them….my advise is pay more attention and go hmmm have I put my self in this situation before If I HAVE what was the end result if bad then don’t get your self into that situation again….. easy!
Peace
Haydos
LOVE/ LIKE / IN LOVE and HEARTING
Definition of LOVE,LIKE and lol HEARTING
The definition of love is “deep affection or fondness”
The definition of Like is “find agreeable or enjoyable”
The Definition of Heart is “hollow muscular organ maintaining the circulation of blood”
So some of the people out there “not many” who can not say the L word say I heart you… and I am not referring that to anyone in particular hahahah maybe I am but that’s my secret :D lol you people know who you are *wink wink*
Thousand if not millions in the world loves or likes something but is the word over used? Me personally no I don’t think that the word is over used…for example if I were to say I LOVE cricket which I do then I could use the term ‘deep affection or fondness” I could say I love my family and my mates which I do… but what I think is over used is the whole “ IN love” if I was to say I was in love with cricket then that would sound weird or I am in love with my brothers then that would sound like yeh i should seek mental help or if i was to say i was in love with my brother chewowa then that would sound like I LOVE bestiality with small evil yapping, mongrel biting, pack hunting, calculating…. ( I have gone of on a tangent haven’t I lol) dog then that would also sound weird.
So when is it ok to use the term love well obviously when you really, really like something or someone… I got confused a while ago if I was IN love or just loved….being in love is totally different then actually loving someone you could love something superficial but you can not be IN love with something superficial. What I don’t want are people to get confused with the whole love and being in love…. Being in love takes a while… you can say to your Girl Friend that you love them or your Boy Friend that you love them…. There is nothing wrong with that even if you have known them for only few months love isn’t a hard word to say…do you love your mates … YES do you love your family YES so why is it so hard for someone to say I Love you to someone you care about? This is where sometimes “THE Substitute” comes into it if the whole hearting comes into it, it’s a substitute for love but why do you have to substitute a word that is commonly used so often when referring to material items hmmm think about it?” If you were to say “I am in love with you” to someone and you have only known them for a few months or a little while then ok that is a bit weird….
There is only ONE unconditional LOVE….I will say it again…..THERE IS ONLY ONE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE….you wanna know what that is …. It’s a love that your mother has for a son or a daughter that there is only the unconditional love you can have or experience… (for you religious people out there god as well he has an unconditional love but I am not going to make this post about religion because any one and every one can read this and what you believe in or what you have a lack of belief in is not the topic because that will just open up another can of worms… especially when fights and wars have happened over the topic :D)….love is a strong feeling you can have stronger then any other feeling any one can experience. It can cause you pain and joy….give me a feeling that can cause pain and joy ….. exactly nothing….
Is it because we are AFRAID to say love to someone just in case of being hurt is that it? Then why are you saying I love you to a basketball is it because the basketball can not hurt your feelings if you answered yes what I want you to do is go into the bathroom now take a good look at your self and say “I” and repeat after me “ I am an idiot” come back and read on… because if your only loving something that can never love you back and that way never get hurt then you got some issues to deal with and you have to build up the courage and learn by your mistakes… if you have loved someone that has broken your heart then your obviously going to learn aren’t you….if you quit on everything that has hurt you in the past how far would you get…I tell you now “not far” because your not learning…
So… tell your mate you love em…tell your Girl Friend you love them or what ever… IF YOU CAN SAY “I love basketball” “I love my pet rat” “ I love my glasses” THEN YOU CAN SAY I love you to someone you care about.
Peace
Haydos
The definition of love is “deep affection or fondness”
The definition of Like is “find agreeable or enjoyable”
The Definition of Heart is “hollow muscular organ maintaining the circulation of blood”
So some of the people out there “not many” who can not say the L word say I heart you… and I am not referring that to anyone in particular hahahah maybe I am but that’s my secret :D lol you people know who you are *wink wink*
Thousand if not millions in the world loves or likes something but is the word over used? Me personally no I don’t think that the word is over used…for example if I were to say I LOVE cricket which I do then I could use the term ‘deep affection or fondness” I could say I love my family and my mates which I do… but what I think is over used is the whole “ IN love” if I was to say I was in love with cricket then that would sound weird or I am in love with my brothers then that would sound like yeh i should seek mental help or if i was to say i was in love with my brother chewowa then that would sound like I LOVE bestiality with small evil yapping, mongrel biting, pack hunting, calculating…. ( I have gone of on a tangent haven’t I lol) dog then that would also sound weird.
So when is it ok to use the term love well obviously when you really, really like something or someone… I got confused a while ago if I was IN love or just loved….being in love is totally different then actually loving someone you could love something superficial but you can not be IN love with something superficial. What I don’t want are people to get confused with the whole love and being in love…. Being in love takes a while… you can say to your Girl Friend that you love them or your Boy Friend that you love them…. There is nothing wrong with that even if you have known them for only few months love isn’t a hard word to say…do you love your mates … YES do you love your family YES so why is it so hard for someone to say I Love you to someone you care about? This is where sometimes “THE Substitute” comes into it if the whole hearting comes into it, it’s a substitute for love but why do you have to substitute a word that is commonly used so often when referring to material items hmmm think about it?” If you were to say “I am in love with you” to someone and you have only known them for a few months or a little while then ok that is a bit weird….
There is only ONE unconditional LOVE….I will say it again…..THERE IS ONLY ONE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE….you wanna know what that is …. It’s a love that your mother has for a son or a daughter that there is only the unconditional love you can have or experience… (for you religious people out there god as well he has an unconditional love but I am not going to make this post about religion because any one and every one can read this and what you believe in or what you have a lack of belief in is not the topic because that will just open up another can of worms… especially when fights and wars have happened over the topic :D)….love is a strong feeling you can have stronger then any other feeling any one can experience. It can cause you pain and joy….give me a feeling that can cause pain and joy ….. exactly nothing….
Is it because we are AFRAID to say love to someone just in case of being hurt is that it? Then why are you saying I love you to a basketball is it because the basketball can not hurt your feelings if you answered yes what I want you to do is go into the bathroom now take a good look at your self and say “I” and repeat after me “ I am an idiot” come back and read on… because if your only loving something that can never love you back and that way never get hurt then you got some issues to deal with and you have to build up the courage and learn by your mistakes… if you have loved someone that has broken your heart then your obviously going to learn aren’t you….if you quit on everything that has hurt you in the past how far would you get…I tell you now “not far” because your not learning…
So… tell your mate you love em…tell your Girl Friend you love them or what ever… IF YOU CAN SAY “I love basketball” “I love my pet rat” “ I love my glasses” THEN YOU CAN SAY I love you to someone you care about.
Peace
Haydos
Friday, January 2, 2009
Talking to girls
Ok people I got my FIRST EVER EMAIL from (anonymous) (thank you anonymous!) requesting some advise on lol
“Talking to girls”
If you were to ask me this question like pfffft 2-3 years ago I would of told you “I have no idea” luckily I met a mate who is let say naturally gifted at “talking to girls”… he gave me some good advise and boosted my confidence up A LOT…
The advice I give its not some sleazy pick up lines like Austin Powers uses ok but it’s simple and easy to understand.
First of all the biggest thing you gotta know is that girls are READY ARE YOU SURE?? HUMANS!! Ok guys yes I know that is hard to understand but yes they are in fact human beings. So talking to them is just like talking to your best mate. But obviously not wanting to be with your best mate in an intimate way…. Girls like confidence as everyone knows but not too much confidence it’s a fine line… I am not a love guru but from my experience be front up be straight up and most of all confident… the best way is to be relaxed and not to stress. The stress only comes into it when you expect to hook up or try and get with the girl and it does not always happen that way… when I have talked to some girls I have even knocked back a couple of invitations to do something afterwards.. and I have even said no… my mates go “what are you (few choice words) GAY!” and just to clarify IM NOT … it is because I have never expected anything out of a night talking to girls and if and when It happens its like BAM in your face and you think “what did I say to have that happen to me”?…the thing is if it does happen to you then you must of LISTENED and not looked at there breasts the whole time….listen relate, agree, disagree it’s a conversation treat it like that don’t put the stress on yourself to hook up. Because trust me in the past when I have just wanted to hook up it never worked unless you can be like some super playa and got a gift but for all those “normal” guys out there who don’t have the best luck just relax…
Secondly to get a girl interested in you on the night you have to flirt or do something that makes them interested in you.. you can not just sit there and goo “why isn’t this girl talking to me or not responding” me personally I like to be funny most of the time and make girls laugh and flirt only a little bit. (when I say flirt I don’t mean *soaks girls dress with water* “ohh your all wet we have to get you out of those clothes” “IT DOSNT WORK!!”
lol…. Flirting is something that will come with confidence and it will come naturally to you… If your not funny then don’t stress the thing is you will find something that will work for you the main thing is …Is that your working on your confidence the girl maybe interested in you because your intelligent or something along those lines “each to there own” girls have different taste in guys like we have different taste in girls.
I am no love guru or some playa that knows everything with girls but what I do know is that they are humans like us and some of them are just as nervous as you. A few easy steps to follow
1. Stress less
2. Confidence
3. LISTEN (listen with you ears not with your *down below*)
4. Eye contact (don’t look around because your to nervous to look in her eyes because if you look around she will think your not interested and if you look at her breasts then she will either find that arousing (which chances are very slim and think you’re a sleaze) or think oh his only after this puppies. Wanna know a trick that I learnt in year 2. If your nervous making eye contact look at her hair or forehead but don’t make it obvious because then she will think that there is something wrong with her hair or she has some MASSIVE zit on her head and make an excuse to go to the toilet (which btw you will be waiting for about… hmm give or take 15 - 20 min)
5. don’t expect anything not even a hug or a kiss or anything just talk interact if you can’t even talk then do something that will build up your confidence in other areas such as talking in a mirror or something ok…. that way you will remain calm and in control.
What I am saying IS NOT GOSPEL that’s what I found worked for me and its advice I followed…. It worked for me just relax be your self I know every one says “DON’T BE YOURSELF” but that’s bull shit because that put even more stress on you to impress…. And as well if she finds out that you’re not that person she started to like then what ….. Exactly be your self if a girl is interested in you for you then….half the battle is done.
At the end of the day your goal is done you have talked to a girl. And the thing is you won’t even have noticed it ;)
Peace
Haydos
Oh BIG P.S
If you can be a little smart ass make a little bit of fun of them and when I say LITTLE I mean little don’t go and say “hahah YOUR FAT!” yeh not a good one to do lol don’t be afraid to tease…that’s part of flirting believe it or not…. ill ask you this question do you tease and muck around with your mates.. if you said no your either
Full of BS
Full of BS
Or
C. FULL OF BS
“Talking to girls”
If you were to ask me this question like pfffft 2-3 years ago I would of told you “I have no idea” luckily I met a mate who is let say naturally gifted at “talking to girls”… he gave me some good advise and boosted my confidence up A LOT…
The advice I give its not some sleazy pick up lines like Austin Powers uses ok but it’s simple and easy to understand.
First of all the biggest thing you gotta know is that girls are READY ARE YOU SURE?? HUMANS!! Ok guys yes I know that is hard to understand but yes they are in fact human beings. So talking to them is just like talking to your best mate. But obviously not wanting to be with your best mate in an intimate way…. Girls like confidence as everyone knows but not too much confidence it’s a fine line… I am not a love guru but from my experience be front up be straight up and most of all confident… the best way is to be relaxed and not to stress. The stress only comes into it when you expect to hook up or try and get with the girl and it does not always happen that way… when I have talked to some girls I have even knocked back a couple of invitations to do something afterwards.. and I have even said no… my mates go “what are you (few choice words) GAY!” and just to clarify IM NOT … it is because I have never expected anything out of a night talking to girls and if and when It happens its like BAM in your face and you think “what did I say to have that happen to me”?…the thing is if it does happen to you then you must of LISTENED and not looked at there breasts the whole time….listen relate, agree, disagree it’s a conversation treat it like that don’t put the stress on yourself to hook up. Because trust me in the past when I have just wanted to hook up it never worked unless you can be like some super playa and got a gift but for all those “normal” guys out there who don’t have the best luck just relax…
Secondly to get a girl interested in you on the night you have to flirt or do something that makes them interested in you.. you can not just sit there and goo “why isn’t this girl talking to me or not responding” me personally I like to be funny most of the time and make girls laugh and flirt only a little bit. (when I say flirt I don’t mean *soaks girls dress with water* “ohh your all wet we have to get you out of those clothes” “IT DOSNT WORK!!”
lol…. Flirting is something that will come with confidence and it will come naturally to you… If your not funny then don’t stress the thing is you will find something that will work for you the main thing is …Is that your working on your confidence the girl maybe interested in you because your intelligent or something along those lines “each to there own” girls have different taste in guys like we have different taste in girls.
I am no love guru or some playa that knows everything with girls but what I do know is that they are humans like us and some of them are just as nervous as you. A few easy steps to follow
1. Stress less
2. Confidence
3. LISTEN (listen with you ears not with your *down below*)
4. Eye contact (don’t look around because your to nervous to look in her eyes because if you look around she will think your not interested and if you look at her breasts then she will either find that arousing (which chances are very slim and think you’re a sleaze) or think oh his only after this puppies. Wanna know a trick that I learnt in year 2. If your nervous making eye contact look at her hair or forehead but don’t make it obvious because then she will think that there is something wrong with her hair or she has some MASSIVE zit on her head and make an excuse to go to the toilet (which btw you will be waiting for about… hmm give or take 15 - 20 min)
5. don’t expect anything not even a hug or a kiss or anything just talk interact if you can’t even talk then do something that will build up your confidence in other areas such as talking in a mirror or something ok…. that way you will remain calm and in control.
What I am saying IS NOT GOSPEL that’s what I found worked for me and its advice I followed…. It worked for me just relax be your self I know every one says “DON’T BE YOURSELF” but that’s bull shit because that put even more stress on you to impress…. And as well if she finds out that you’re not that person she started to like then what ….. Exactly be your self if a girl is interested in you for you then….half the battle is done.
At the end of the day your goal is done you have talked to a girl. And the thing is you won’t even have noticed it ;)
Peace
Haydos
Oh BIG P.S
If you can be a little smart ass make a little bit of fun of them and when I say LITTLE I mean little don’t go and say “hahah YOUR FAT!” yeh not a good one to do lol don’t be afraid to tease…that’s part of flirting believe it or not…. ill ask you this question do you tease and muck around with your mates.. if you said no your either
Full of BS
Full of BS
Or
C. FULL OF BS
Thursday, January 1, 2009
New Years Resolutions.
HAPPY NEW YEARS PEOPLE !!!!
So we have started a new year…. WELCOME TO 2009!….
SO what is your “New Years Resolution” and are you going to stick to it? That is the question. Millions of people world wide every year at the stroke of midnight plan on changing something about there life style or them self, example “I’m going to loose weight or I am going to give up smoking” all these are fine things to change and its always good to change them because your trying to make your life healthier…now I don’t know how many times I have said I am going to loose weight… but what I have learned is that the hole new years resolution is just an excuse that’s correct EXCUSE. Why can’t you make the changes TODAY!? What is wrong with starting NOW? There is nothing from stopping you…as far as I am concerned you’re New Year or your new life starts from the day you decide to change your life. For example if you start say in June that means in June next year that will be your year you have changed…. Just because the world starts a new year does not mean you have to.
For the smoking example according to: http://www.pfizer.com.au/Media/SmokingCessation.aspx
“If Australian smokers would have kept their New Year's resolutions, the rate of smoking in Australia would have decreased by 640,000 smokers in the past six months. Instead, the rate of smokers that successfully quit following a New Year's resolution currently sits at a low 11 per cent according to new research released todayi, prompting expert warnings that Australian 'would-be quitters' need to think differently about how they quit smoking.”
So if the statistics say that only 11 per cent of people actually quit then what would be the point in making a new years resolution. For example, every person the other night I asked “what is there new years resolution”? You know what they all replied “giving up smoking” granted I was in the smokers area but you know funny thing is? I asked them after midnight which would count as the new year doesn’t it? lol
Smoking is ONE of the many resolutions that’s millions make per year. So what is the point of making your life healthier if your not going to actually make an effort to…why wait a hole year to make that decision can you not make it now? And start now? There is no reason why you shouldn’t be able to make that resolution today.
My resolution for this year was to get healthier and stick to my life changes I.E being more tidy and loose 10 – 15 kg which I actually started doing 2 months prior to new years… the best way to stick to your resolutions is just by doing it….just do it! And never look back and look forward to being the person you want to be.
I hope this new year brings you all the joy, love and luck and for all those people who made a resolution keep at it…even if you fail half way threw the year don’t give up…just keep to it..
Peace
Haydos
Tuesday, December 30, 2008
Giving and Receiving Constructive Criticism…
Giving and Receiving Constructive Criticism....
Ok so we have all taken criticism before me more then others lol but it what we do with that criticism that defines you as a person… say for instance (and im using singing as an example because it the most common criticism) your best mate is absolutely tone deaf ( I am not referring to any of my mates btw) and he cant sing at all… would it better if you don’t tell him that he sucks at singing or encourage him to sing more so you don’t hurt his feelings… now this goes on and on and on until one day he says to you that he is going on Australian idol so he can have a chance to share his gift with the hole of Australia? (ur thinking ohhh SHIT) but you don’t say anything because you don’t want to hurt his feelings … now he goes on the show sings … the judges are on the floor screaming “GOD LET IT STOP” covering there ears from noise your mate is producing from his voice….. now would it be better for him to embarrass him self in front of his mates or the entire country and maybe even get posted on youtube and you end up like this dude http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OATgxZzpxrY .
I mean this dude obviously never got told by his mates he couldn’t sing… So my question to you.. would it be better to tell someone straight up even if you don’t have the courage to tell that person he isn’t that good … do not say “YOU SUCK JUST STOP SINGING YOUR MAKING BABY JESUS CRY!” uh…that would be a no that would probably stop him from singing yes mission completed but that’s not what a mate should say. Say something like “ok yeah I thought that was ok but I wouldn’t make a career of it..” say something that is sugar coated and if they don’t get it then refer to my previous line of “your making baby Jesus cry”… no jokes don’t do that… if he doesn’t get the picture then you have done all you can do as a friend and if they get a kick in the gut from someone else then you can say to him well I tried to warn you. In any situation when you’re constructively criticizing someone… say it tactfully and nicely not screaming at them saying they suck.
When you receive constructive criticism try not to take it personally I have taken things before when some of my mates warned me and taken it personally and thought they hated me….But the truth of the matter is that they were just looking out for me…because that way you learn and you obviously go out and make what you just did better…I got a beating when I played cricket from one of my coaches Scotty he would really crack it at me but I was to immature to recognize that what he was doing was for a reason and not that he had something against me…and it’s unfortunate that I didn’t pick up on it then instead of now…this is what I always say Learn from your mistakes which has taken me 21 years to understand lol…so just because someone says your not good or no that could be better they are not saying to beat you down they are saying so you can either improve on that area or just quit while your ahead lol I know that sounds mean but…I tell you what it’s a cruel world and if your family members or friends don’t tell you before you recognize it, when you go out into that scary world then your just going to get a harder beating and your going to look for someone to blame.. “open your ears, listen, ask for constructive criticism because it’s not harmful it’s either telling you two things
1. that you need to improve on that area
2. that you need to stop before you make a full of yourself
Peace
Haydos
Ok so we have all taken criticism before me more then others lol but it what we do with that criticism that defines you as a person… say for instance (and im using singing as an example because it the most common criticism) your best mate is absolutely tone deaf ( I am not referring to any of my mates btw) and he cant sing at all… would it better if you don’t tell him that he sucks at singing or encourage him to sing more so you don’t hurt his feelings… now this goes on and on and on until one day he says to you that he is going on Australian idol so he can have a chance to share his gift with the hole of Australia? (ur thinking ohhh SHIT) but you don’t say anything because you don’t want to hurt his feelings … now he goes on the show sings … the judges are on the floor screaming “GOD LET IT STOP” covering there ears from noise your mate is producing from his voice….. now would it be better for him to embarrass him self in front of his mates or the entire country and maybe even get posted on youtube and you end up like this dude http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OATgxZzpxrY .
I mean this dude obviously never got told by his mates he couldn’t sing… So my question to you.. would it be better to tell someone straight up even if you don’t have the courage to tell that person he isn’t that good … do not say “YOU SUCK JUST STOP SINGING YOUR MAKING BABY JESUS CRY!” uh…that would be a no that would probably stop him from singing yes mission completed but that’s not what a mate should say. Say something like “ok yeah I thought that was ok but I wouldn’t make a career of it..” say something that is sugar coated and if they don’t get it then refer to my previous line of “your making baby Jesus cry”… no jokes don’t do that… if he doesn’t get the picture then you have done all you can do as a friend and if they get a kick in the gut from someone else then you can say to him well I tried to warn you. In any situation when you’re constructively criticizing someone… say it tactfully and nicely not screaming at them saying they suck.
When you receive constructive criticism try not to take it personally I have taken things before when some of my mates warned me and taken it personally and thought they hated me….But the truth of the matter is that they were just looking out for me…because that way you learn and you obviously go out and make what you just did better…I got a beating when I played cricket from one of my coaches Scotty he would really crack it at me but I was to immature to recognize that what he was doing was for a reason and not that he had something against me…and it’s unfortunate that I didn’t pick up on it then instead of now…this is what I always say Learn from your mistakes which has taken me 21 years to understand lol…so just because someone says your not good or no that could be better they are not saying to beat you down they are saying so you can either improve on that area or just quit while your ahead lol I know that sounds mean but…I tell you what it’s a cruel world and if your family members or friends don’t tell you before you recognize it, when you go out into that scary world then your just going to get a harder beating and your going to look for someone to blame.. “open your ears, listen, ask for constructive criticism because it’s not harmful it’s either telling you two things
1. that you need to improve on that area
2. that you need to stop before you make a full of yourself
Peace
Haydos
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