Ok so we have all taken criticism before me more then others lol but it what we do with that criticism that defines you as a person… say for instance (and im using singing as an example because it the most common criticism) your best mate is absolutely tone deaf ( I am not referring to any of my mates btw) and he cant sing at all… would it better if you don’t tell him that he sucks at singing or encourage him to sing more so you don’t hurt his feelings… now this goes on and on and on until one day he says to you that he is going on Australian idol so he can have a chance to share his gift with the hole of Australia? (ur thinking ohhh SHIT) but you don’t say anything because you don’t want to hurt his feelings … now he goes on the show sings … the judges are on the floor screaming “GOD LET IT STOP” covering there ears from noise your mate is producing from his voice….. now would it be better for him to embarrass him self in front of his mates or the entire country and maybe even get posted on youtube and you end up like this dude http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OATgxZzpxrY .
I mean this dude obviously never got told by his mates he couldn’t sing… So my question to you.. would it be better to tell someone straight up even if you don’t have the courage to tell that person he isn’t that good … do not say “YOU SUCK JUST STOP SINGING YOUR MAKING BABY JESUS CRY!” uh…that would be a no that would probably stop him from singing yes mission completed but that’s not what a mate should say. Say something like “ok yeah I thought that was ok but I wouldn’t make a career of it..” say something that is sugar coated and if they don’t get it then refer to my previous line of “your making baby Jesus cry”… no jokes don’t do that… if he doesn’t get the picture then you have done all you can do as a friend and if they get a kick in the gut from someone else then you can say to him well I tried to warn you. In any situation when you’re constructively criticizing someone… say it tactfully and nicely not screaming at them saying they suck.
When you receive constructive criticism try not to take it personally I have taken things before when some of my mates warned me and taken it personally and thought they hated me….But the truth of the matter is that they were just looking out for me…because that way you learn and you obviously go out and make what you just did better…I got a beating when I played cricket from one of my coaches Scotty he would really crack it at me but I was to immature to recognize that what he was doing was for a reason and not that he had something against me…and it’s unfortunate that I didn’t pick up on it then instead of now…this is what I always say Learn from your mistakes which has taken me 21 years to understand lol…so just because someone says your not good or no that could be better they are not saying to beat you down they are saying so you can either improve on that area or just quit while your ahead lol I know that sounds mean but…I tell you what it’s a cruel world and if your family members or friends don’t tell you before you recognize it, when you go out into that scary world then your just going to get a harder beating and your going to look for someone to blame.. “open your ears, listen, ask for constructive criticism because it’s not harmful it’s either telling you two things
1. that you need to improve on that area
2. that you need to stop before you make a full of yourself
Peace
Haydos
