Ok people I got my FIRST EVER EMAIL from (anonymous) (thank you anonymous!) requesting some advise on lol
“Talking to girls”
If you were to ask me this question like pfffft 2-3 years ago I would of told you “I have no idea” luckily I met a mate who is let say naturally gifted at “talking to girls”… he gave me some good advise and boosted my confidence up A LOT…
The advice I give its not some sleazy pick up lines like Austin Powers uses ok but it’s simple and easy to understand.
First of all the biggest thing you gotta know is that girls are READY ARE YOU SURE?? HUMANS!! Ok guys yes I know that is hard to understand but yes they are in fact human beings. So talking to them is just like talking to your best mate. But obviously not wanting to be with your best mate in an intimate way…. Girls like confidence as everyone knows but not too much confidence it’s a fine line… I am not a love guru but from my experience be front up be straight up and most of all confident… the best way is to be relaxed and not to stress. The stress only comes into it when you expect to hook up or try and get with the girl and it does not always happen that way… when I have talked to some girls I have even knocked back a couple of invitations to do something afterwards.. and I have even said no… my mates go “what are you (few choice words) GAY!” and just to clarify IM NOT … it is because I have never expected anything out of a night talking to girls and if and when It happens its like BAM in your face and you think “what did I say to have that happen to me”?…the thing is if it does happen to you then you must of LISTENED and not looked at there breasts the whole time….listen relate, agree, disagree it’s a conversation treat it like that don’t put the stress on yourself to hook up. Because trust me in the past when I have just wanted to hook up it never worked unless you can be like some super playa and got a gift but for all those “normal” guys out there who don’t have the best luck just relax…
Secondly to get a girl interested in you on the night you have to flirt or do something that makes them interested in you.. you can not just sit there and goo “why isn’t this girl talking to me or not responding” me personally I like to be funny most of the time and make girls laugh and flirt only a little bit. (when I say flirt I don’t mean *soaks girls dress with water* “ohh your all wet we have to get you out of those clothes” “IT DOSNT WORK!!”
lol…. Flirting is something that will come with confidence and it will come naturally to you… If your not funny then don’t stress the thing is you will find something that will work for you the main thing is …Is that your working on your confidence the girl maybe interested in you because your intelligent or something along those lines “each to there own” girls have different taste in guys like we have different taste in girls.
I am no love guru or some playa that knows everything with girls but what I do know is that they are humans like us and some of them are just as nervous as you. A few easy steps to follow
1. Stress less
2. Confidence
3. LISTEN (listen with you ears not with your *down below*)
4. Eye contact (don’t look around because your to nervous to look in her eyes because if you look around she will think your not interested and if you look at her breasts then she will either find that arousing (which chances are very slim and think you’re a sleaze) or think oh his only after this puppies. Wanna know a trick that I learnt in year 2. If your nervous making eye contact look at her hair or forehead but don’t make it obvious because then she will think that there is something wrong with her hair or she has some MASSIVE zit on her head and make an excuse to go to the toilet (which btw you will be waiting for about… hmm give or take 15 - 20 min)
5. don’t expect anything not even a hug or a kiss or anything just talk interact if you can’t even talk then do something that will build up your confidence in other areas such as talking in a mirror or something ok…. that way you will remain calm and in control.
What I am saying IS NOT GOSPEL that’s what I found worked for me and its advice I followed…. It worked for me just relax be your self I know every one says “DON’T BE YOURSELF” but that’s bull shit because that put even more stress on you to impress…. And as well if she finds out that you’re not that person she started to like then what ….. Exactly be your self if a girl is interested in you for you then….half the battle is done.
At the end of the day your goal is done you have talked to a girl. And the thing is you won’t even have noticed it ;)
Peace
Haydos
Oh BIG P.S
If you can be a little smart ass make a little bit of fun of them and when I say LITTLE I mean little don’t go and say “hahah YOUR FAT!” yeh not a good one to do lol don’t be afraid to tease…that’s part of flirting believe it or not…. ill ask you this question do you tease and muck around with your mates.. if you said no your either
Full of BS
Full of BS
Or
C. FULL OF BS
“Talking to girls”
If you were to ask me this question like pfffft 2-3 years ago I would of told you “I have no idea” luckily I met a mate who is let say naturally gifted at “talking to girls”… he gave me some good advise and boosted my confidence up A LOT…
The advice I give its not some sleazy pick up lines like Austin Powers uses ok but it’s simple and easy to understand.
First of all the biggest thing you gotta know is that girls are READY ARE YOU SURE?? HUMANS!! Ok guys yes I know that is hard to understand but yes they are in fact human beings. So talking to them is just like talking to your best mate. But obviously not wanting to be with your best mate in an intimate way…. Girls like confidence as everyone knows but not too much confidence it’s a fine line… I am not a love guru but from my experience be front up be straight up and most of all confident… the best way is to be relaxed and not to stress. The stress only comes into it when you expect to hook up or try and get with the girl and it does not always happen that way… when I have talked to some girls I have even knocked back a couple of invitations to do something afterwards.. and I have even said no… my mates go “what are you (few choice words) GAY!” and just to clarify IM NOT … it is because I have never expected anything out of a night talking to girls and if and when It happens its like BAM in your face and you think “what did I say to have that happen to me”?…the thing is if it does happen to you then you must of LISTENED and not looked at there breasts the whole time….listen relate, agree, disagree it’s a conversation treat it like that don’t put the stress on yourself to hook up. Because trust me in the past when I have just wanted to hook up it never worked unless you can be like some super playa and got a gift but for all those “normal” guys out there who don’t have the best luck just relax…
Secondly to get a girl interested in you on the night you have to flirt or do something that makes them interested in you.. you can not just sit there and goo “why isn’t this girl talking to me or not responding” me personally I like to be funny most of the time and make girls laugh and flirt only a little bit. (when I say flirt I don’t mean *soaks girls dress with water* “ohh your all wet we have to get you out of those clothes” “IT DOSNT WORK!!”
lol…. Flirting is something that will come with confidence and it will come naturally to you… If your not funny then don’t stress the thing is you will find something that will work for you the main thing is …Is that your working on your confidence the girl maybe interested in you because your intelligent or something along those lines “each to there own” girls have different taste in guys like we have different taste in girls.
I am no love guru or some playa that knows everything with girls but what I do know is that they are humans like us and some of them are just as nervous as you. A few easy steps to follow
1. Stress less
2. Confidence
3. LISTEN (listen with you ears not with your *down below*)
4. Eye contact (don’t look around because your to nervous to look in her eyes because if you look around she will think your not interested and if you look at her breasts then she will either find that arousing (which chances are very slim and think you’re a sleaze) or think oh his only after this puppies. Wanna know a trick that I learnt in year 2. If your nervous making eye contact look at her hair or forehead but don’t make it obvious because then she will think that there is something wrong with her hair or she has some MASSIVE zit on her head and make an excuse to go to the toilet (which btw you will be waiting for about… hmm give or take 15 - 20 min)
5. don’t expect anything not even a hug or a kiss or anything just talk interact if you can’t even talk then do something that will build up your confidence in other areas such as talking in a mirror or something ok…. that way you will remain calm and in control.
What I am saying IS NOT GOSPEL that’s what I found worked for me and its advice I followed…. It worked for me just relax be your self I know every one says “DON’T BE YOURSELF” but that’s bull shit because that put even more stress on you to impress…. And as well if she finds out that you’re not that person she started to like then what ….. Exactly be your self if a girl is interested in you for you then….half the battle is done.
At the end of the day your goal is done you have talked to a girl. And the thing is you won’t even have noticed it ;)
Peace
Haydos
Oh BIG P.S
If you can be a little smart ass make a little bit of fun of them and when I say LITTLE I mean little don’t go and say “hahah YOUR FAT!” yeh not a good one to do lol don’t be afraid to tease…that’s part of flirting believe it or not…. ill ask you this question do you tease and muck around with your mates.. if you said no your either
Full of BS
Full of BS
Or
C. FULL OF BS
